So, you know me. I'm watching Secret Life last week. And the topic de jour was privacy. Turns out teenagers love snooping through each others' phones. And it got me thinking. What is the expectation of privacy in a committed relationship? Do you need to snoop? Are you allowed to? Do they tell you everything anyway? Should they?
I think it all comes down to trust. If you trust your partner to not do anything horrible, then you don't need to check their phone/emails/etc for proof of it. And if you don't trust this person, what are you doing in a relationship with them?
Trust is a mutual quality in a relationship, and if your partner trusts you, wouldn't they tell you about a compromising text and the situations surrounding it?
People really just need to talk to each other! But I'm not sure I'm making any sense, so anyway. What do you think? What is the expectation of privacy in a committed relationship? What is your expectation of privacy?
3 comments:
I believe that a relationship is built on trust. If you cannot trust the other person, you can't really have a good relationship. You're right, if you can't trust them then why are you in a relationship with them? And if you do trust them, there should be no need to being checking their phone, etc. I also think that another important part of any relationship is willingness to communicate and share. It makes it easier to trust them when you know they talk to you about what is going on in their life.
I definately agree that a committed relationship is built on trust and it must be a mutual thing. People in a relationship built on trust don't need to snoop, but I think you are allowed to. Of course, if there's no need, then why do it? Adam and I always tell each other everything anyways and so if something like a tex tor phone call shows up that is questionable, ther is no need to wonder about it and blow it way out of proportion. So Tenika said it well, an "important part of any relationship is willingness to communicate and share." If you love that person and trust them, then it makes it easier to do that. Start out with that trust and sommunication and never do anything stupid yourself.
Wow, can you say typos all through that comment! It made me cringe after I read through it. Sorry about that. ^_^
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